If you are Christian reading this, chances are that you are probably struggling with porn. Around 7 out of 10 Christians do. If you have wanted to quit, but so far no advice so far has helped you, I’m here to tell you that it’s not entirely your fault and there is a solution.
You won’t find it in the majority of churches, because most Christians and pastors struggle with porn just as much as the average person.
- Around 50% of Pastors view porn
- 76% of young Christian adults actively search for porn.
- Only 7% of churches actively try to help people struggling with porn addiction.
Moreover, the topic of sex is a taboo subject in Western Christianity, making it more difficult to discuss the solution to this major issue within the church! I’m writing this blog because I too, was addicted to porn for the majority of my life – but I found freedom and would like to share my knowledge on the matter.
Since the age of 8, I started viewing porn. At first it was just the instinct of curiosity, but from that moment it had its grip on me. Despite giving my life to God at age 21, I couldn’t shake it, and I constantly battled with guilt & shame. I blamed myself for my lack of willpower, and believed the reason why I couldn’t quit was because I didn’t love God enough.
I did plenty of research on quitting this addiction but nothing really helped. I wanted a magic bullet, but every source proclaimed that none existed. I was told that it would take a long time and a lot of effort to break free. This was totally false, and this false belief was part of the reason why I found it so hard to quit. The truth is, quitting for me had almost nothing to do with willpower, and had everything to do with a misunderstanding of Christianity.
What most churches teach is that we are all sinners and that lust is a biological temptation that will be with you your whole life. I was taught that I must overcome it by simply choosing to obey God’s commands. I believed lust was part of human nature, and I just needed to be strong enough. There were times where I temporarily broke free after fasting – but addiction eventually returned, leaving me hopeless.
For you, it may be a repetitive cycle you can’t break free from. In this regard, you may have accepted that lust is in your human nature, and it’s up to you to figure out how to overcome it in your personal life. This is a lie, and it isn’t found in the Bible.
The truth is that Jesus set you free from your sinful nature, including your lust, so that you are no longer a slave to sin. You still have the freedom to accept lustful thoughts, but it is against your new nature, which means your nature does not call on you to commit acts of lust, nor does your mind create lustful thoughts. This may go against your personal experience, but for now let’s just acknowledge what the Bible says:
We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? …For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin -because anyone who has died has been set free from sin. … For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace. …You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness. …When you were slaves to sin, you were free from the control of righteousness… But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness, and the result is eternal life.
1 John 3:9
No one who is born of God practices sin, because His seed abides in him; and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.
The chances are, you may still feel like a slave to sin; specifically, a slave to lust, and that your thoughts tempt you to commit acts of lust. According to what Jesus said, the only reason why you don’t feel free is because you lack knowledge of the truth.
And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
If you claim to actually believe the Bible, then you must undoubtedly accept that the only reason you feel like a slave is because you don’t fully know or accept the truth.
My First Discovery
About a month prior to my freedom, I started asking why I was watching porn in the first place. God revealed to me that I was neglecting an area of my heart that he wanted to fill.
Although I saw God as father, friend and Lord, I didn’t feel any romantic love (Eros) when I spent time with him. I also realised that because I lacked Eros with God, I was seeking a distorted version of it from the internet.
In the Bible, Christ is described as being a Groom, and the church is his bride. As a man, I found it difficult to understand how God could be my husband as I viewed God as male (and I’m not exactly one to pursue homosexual relationships, lol).
While I spoke to God about this roadblock, he asked me to imagine him loving me like I used to love my ex-girlfriend. Not only that, but he asked me to imagine him being female, so that I could give myself permission to experience Eros love with him. To me, this sounded theologically dangerous, so I checked with scripture first before doing this exercise and I found some interesting things…
In Hebrew the word for ‘Holy Spirit‘ (shekhinah) is feminine.
God is clearly stated as spirit, not flesh.
In Genesis 1:27 God created both man and woman in his image (not just man)
There are numerous scriptures describing God as a female. Here are a couple:
How often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.
Isaiah 49 & 66
Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! … As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.
Feeling reassured, I decided to imagine God loving me as a female, and I was surprised to discovered an entirely new form of love for God which I had never experienced before. This unlocked new levels of grace, and I fell madly in love with God in a romantic way. Please understand, I never once believed God was female during any of this; nor am I advocating the idea that God is female. But I previously saw God as male, and this was an issue that prevented me from romancing with God.
God deliberately chose male pronouns in the Bible because he wanted us to see him as our King, protector, breadwinner, and the romantic initiator – while we are to see ourselves as his bride. However, God is not biological and has no Gender – God has the best qualities from both genders, as he made both male and female in his image. Through this revelation, the frequency of my porn slowly diminished and I felt a lot less guilt & shame! However, this was not the total solution to my addiction. I needed to understand one more thing.
The Final Truth
About one month after entering into romance with God, I was permanently set free from lust.
During a birthday party, a friend was praying for me when he saw a vision of a Demon inside me.
He immediately asked what I was addicted to, and I openly told him of my ongoing porn addiction.
In the name of Jesus, he commanded the demon to leave. As this occurred, something from the inside of my stomach physically pushed outwards (like in the movie Alien), which freaked me out a lot. This wasn’t placebo; I was feeling a physical thing move around in my stomach. Over a couple minutes of praying, large amount of gas rose up my throat until it eventually came out of my mouth. I immediately felt relief, and the romance I had been growing in with God became 10 times stronger. The Demon had left and now I had been completely filled with Eros for God. From that moment onward I have never had a single thought of lust, and have never desired to look at porn.
This might sound simple, but that is only because it is. The truth is that my porn addiction was demonic! Once the demon left, my willpower was easily enough to crush any attempts of my body to go back to addiction.
Attempts of Return
As you might have guessed, demonic spirits don’t ever just give up and leave without trying to get back in.
“When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. Then it says, ‘I will return to the house I left.’ When it arrives, it finds the house swept clean and put in order. Then it goes and takes seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first.”
This demon tried 3 times to tempt me act upon lust. It woke me up in the middle of the night twice, causing physical pain all over my body, tempting me to give in. The level of temptation was extreme, but because I knew exactly what was causing it, I simply prayed in tongues and it left within a couple of minutes.
This was barely at all a battle of willpower, but more so about trusting God that the temptation would leave. Although the temptation was greater than it had ever been, I had no trouble rejecting it because I knew without a doubt that this was a demon. I had previously experienced it physically moving around in my stomach and that memory was more than enough to convince me to steer clear of it!
The third time the demon appeared physically. I woke up to go to the bathroom that night, and I literally saw a transparent naked woman in front of me. This was not tempting at all, and was clearly a last ditch attempt to lure me back in. I prayed in tongues and it left immediately. The next morning I found blood stains in the bathroom, and nobody had been home that night except for me. I wasn’t bleeding, so I have no idea what that was all about. All I know is I never got tempted from that point onwards, and have lived free of lust ever since.
Application of Knowledge
The conclusion of this blog may be unsettling to you, but it’s the truth. If you are addicted to porn, by biblical standards you are being demonically influenced. Jesus set you free from sin, so the only biblical reason why you can’t break free from lust is because it’s coming from an external source.
My advice to you would be to find out why you are doing it in the first place, and then seek to resolve that reason. If you don’t yet have romance with God, seek this first! It is really important to do this before getting rid of a lustful demon, as it will prevent any demons from returning (Luke 11:24-26). Once your love for God has developed into romance, you can then focus on evicting the evil spirit.
If possible, it’s best to ask a mature christian for help in getting rid of the spirit, as attempting to do this on your own may prove to be more difficult. Regardless, evicting the spirit of lust is critical, and is the final step in getting free from addiction.
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Are you saying I am possessed?
Whether or not you have a demon inside our outside your body doesn’t matter, as the bible doesn’t make any real distinction between oppressed or possessed. There isn’t any word for “possessed” in the Greek literature. It simply means “to have one, to be under the power or influence of one, or to be afflicted or tortured by a demon.” How much you entertain a demon will determine how much influence it has on you.
But what about biological temptations?
1 Corinthians 6:13
You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies.
The biological desire to reproduce exists for a good reason, but lust and sex are not the same thing, similarly to gluttony and hunger. Lust is a desire that disregards the dignity of human beings; treating them as objects to be used for self-gratification. In lust, sexual pleasure is divorced from mutual self-giving. In contrast, the way God designed sex was for it to be the deepest level of intimacy between man and woman. I have the desire for the latter, not the former.
The Bible states that our sinful (lustful) nature has been done away with through Jesus’ death and resurrection. This means that Christians only experience lust because they believe lies fed to them by demons, which leads them to abuse their biology (which actually desires intimacy). Many Christians would probably use Galatians 5:17 to state that our nature is lustful: “For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.”
To those people, I say: READ THE WHOLE CHAPTER. It’s important to know exactly who the text is talking about. Verse 24 states “Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.” Clearly the previous verse wasn’t talking about “those who belong to Christ Jesus”
I have been my own devils advocate and looked through all the bible verses referring to lust. I found that all verses that spoke of having a lustful nature were speaking about unsaved people. Some verses confirmed what I have been saying about demonic temptation, and others did not state the source of the temptation. But regardless, the point is that the bible cannot contradict itself when it states that our sinful nature was crucified with Christ.
Personally, after being set free from lust, I have accidentally seen porn a few times while browsing the internet, and my biology did not tempt me at all. The only experience I felt was sorrow for the person. If you have no sinful nature, then lust is not of you – it is external.
Are you basing this off your personal experience? How can you claim that this applies to everyone?
I waited several months after being set free before even considering writing this, as I knew people would be skeptical. But since understanding the reality of our sinless nature and the prevalence of evil spirits, I have been evicting countless demons from other christians on a weekly basis. Whether that be anxiety, drug addiction, fear of men, suicidal thoughts, rage or lust – most of what I previously thought was human failure and psychological issues were demonic. I have chosen to deal with the personal struggles of my fellow Christians, not as the world would, but as Jesus would. Since treating these wounds with the right medicine, I have seen profound effects on the lives of my friends and siblings in Christ.